As for me, I find other peoples approval a distraction. Richard and myself took LV for a walk last night as we are constantly thinking about our parenting choices. Both of us, grew up in an environment where we felt that we need meet with our parents approval, it is funny to think that we spent so much of our childhood being 'good', as adult's we have kicked back and watched God take us on a journey that began healing our mental grids of who we are. The truth is that we have resigned from trying to meet with their approval as our life choices are so different from eachother. BUT since living here, we feel like we are going backwards. I often come away from hanging Richard's Dad, with the feeling of his doesn't approve of my laid back role of being a 'wife'. Sometimes, I feel like he doesn't like me, which wouldn't bother me, if I didn't live here. It is hard facing someone each day who you naturally do not click with. I like me, which is easier to enjoy in a less Stifled home environment.